The Secret To Evaluating Your Relationship With Your Partner

Nobody ever said relationships were easy. And if they did, they were lying. A quick look at the shelves of any bookstore or library will tell you that people are looking for help in the relationship department. Seeking help in the form of a guide or book is a good idea, and a crucial step for many couples. However, evaluating your relationship with your partner before getting one is a good idea, too.

Why take the time to do this when a book has all the answers? Well, most books do not include a section on evaluation, and how can you know which steps to follow or how to follow them if you don’t know where your relationship is at the moment? The answer is, you can’t.

Because we as human beings are social creatures, it’s only natural that we want to get along with those we are close to, and to remain with them whenever possible. Developing a sense of where you stand as a couple fits right in with our most basic desires.

When it comes to evaluating your relationship with your partner you can do it two different ways. The first way is to do it on your own, without any input from your significant other. The second way is to do it together as a couple. Both methods have their own pros and cons. Neither one is better than the other, because what counts is the ultimate goal of knowing what’s going on.

Whichever method you choose, it doesn’t have to be complicated. Simple yes or no questions are okay, but they don’t really reveal all that much. The secret is to ask good, open-ended questions that will lead to more in-depth answers. Here are a few examples.

What do you want from the relationship?

What do you offer in the relationship?

What are your expectations of your partner?

What can you do to improve the relationship?

Where do you see the relationship going?

You’ll notice that you can ask the above questions, and questions like them, whether doing the evaluation on your own, or with your partner.

The questions and answers are only the first part of the process. They are designed to get you thinking and talking. However, it is absolutely critical that you answer them honestly. This is easier said then done, especially when you have a certain outcome in mind. In other words, your answers when evaluating your relationship with your partner will be much different if you are assuming a break up is imminent than if you assume you’ll be staying together.

It’s important to keep an open mind while going through this process. By doing so, you will get to the heart of the matter and make a better decision based on what you discover. The answer at which you arrive may not be what you expect, and it’s also not the final word. But it will help you to see things as they really are, and what steps you can take to have the best outcome possible.

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Are You Hooked On Online Dating?

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Do you get in from work and check your inbox to see if you have another admirer? If you do, you could be hooked on online dating. You crave the attention of another single, but deep down you don’t really want to settle down.

While you are dating someone offline, are you still checking your inbox when you get home? Are you always on the lookout for someone you feel will be better? These are classic signs of someone who is hooked on online dating.

Have you received a wink off of another single then cancelled an already arranged date? This is generally done by singles that are active with more than one person at a time while dating online. They arrange a date with one single, but deep down they want to go out with the other single. Then they go out on the date and realize it may have been a mistake, and hope the other single is still interested.

Finding a fault with everyone is another sign of addiction. Always looking for someone to be perfect, but that will never happen, you don’t want it to. Remember, you’re addicted, and the next person you date will always be better. You can go back to your inbox, and see who is contacting you.

The enjoyment of going to a restaurant with someone different is a turn on for you. That continual initial attraction is far more appealing than a long term relationship ever will be. It’s lust that you’re after, and not love.

Splitting up comes easy to an online dating addict. Reconciliation’s are not even mentioned. What ever the reason was for splitting up, they will be forgotten once back online, and looking for more fish in the sea.

Seeing a relationship through takes character and strength. Any challenges should be talked about, and not just used as an excuse to split up, and move on. These obstacles will build the relationship so it grows and becomes stronger.

The reason for starting online dating is to meet someone. Someone you can commit too. Not every relationship is going to work out, wanting it too will give it a much better chance of survival.

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Do we Love God Above All Things?

People seek love in many places. When we love someone we have so many feelings and emotions for that person. When we fall in love we feel loved, happy, valued, accepted, honored, wanted and protected and we want this person to be in our life all the time and we will reach to the point that we can not live without them. We think of them all the time and we trust them to share our feelings. This person becomes our entire world and we long and desire to be with them. We love them with all our heart, soul and mind. The said love could be for our parents, spouses, family members, children, neighbors, friends, pets etc. but we have a hard time in loving God truly. God gives us everything we need, and gave us many things and abilities for us to love him.

Even though we say that we Love God our Lord Jesus Christ still we have hard time in loving him truly and we have diverted our mind and love on ourselves ,money, amusements, food and drink, clothes , TV, movies, sports and other types of entertainments. We are constantly distracted from God and busy in running  after worldly and material things. Is this a true love for our God?

If we truly love our God Jesus Christ we would love to spend unlimited time with Him in prayer, and Delighting in God’s Word and receive new revelations about Him, Communicating with God in Prayer by making confession, intercession, supplication and thanks giving .We will Trust His Word and allowing him to guide us into righteousness. God has an unfailing love, he is compassionate, kind and forgiving with us .His everlasting love endures forever he created us and lay down his life for us. His love is manifested by His mercy, grace, pity, patience, loving kindness, goodness, truth, forgiveness, and justice. Jesus Christ demonstrated true love when as God- He humbled himself and became a man on earth to restore our relationship with the God who created us, God made us to be loved perfectly by him, to be respected and treasured by him, his love is infinite. The more we spend time in his presence, the more we understand his love for us .But we often seek this love in other people to get our needs met, this causes us to feel unsatisfied ,unfulfilled ,frustrated and inadequate to meet the needs and are disappointed or hurt at some point.

In Deuteronomy 6:5 and Matthew 22:37-38 God has commanded to love God above everything, above everyone and even above more than our own family members. “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength”.

When we love our God Jesus Christ we constantly think of God in our mind and heart we have the opportunity to grow in him depending on him for everything and he becomes our source to meet all of our needs, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. He comforts us, cares for us, appreciates us, he gives us peace through the Holy Spirit. God has spoken to people many times throughout the Scriptures by various means. He also speaks to us through others, through direct revelation, dreams, written words, prophets, circumstances, angels, nature, through impressions, events, thoughts and through the Holy Spirit.

When we are walking in God’s love, following His commands, His joy is manifest in our heart and He responds to us .We need to desire Him with our whole heart, hunger and thirst for Him and His righteousness. The Bible promises that if we seek God, he will come to us. God wants to be in our lives but we must be willing to turn away from the things that are not from God. God gives eternal life for the person who believes in Jesus Christ to lead a holy life and it’s a Gods gift. Eternal life is God’s kind of life. It is life that comes from God. (John 3:16, John 5:39, Romans 2:7)

“Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through me’” (John 14:6).

He is the First and Last, the Beginning and the End!

He is the keeper of Creation and the Creator of all!

He is the creative agent and the image of God!

He is our Passover, our great High priest and the Head of the church!

He is the Architect of the universe and the Manager of all times.

He is same yesterday, today, and forever.

He was bruised and brought healing! He was pierced and eased pain!

He was persecuted and brought freedom! He was dead and brought life!

He is risen and brings power! He reigns and brings Peace!

He became poor – so that we might be rich.

The world can’t understand him, the armies can’t defeat Him,

The schools can’t explain Him, the leaders can’t ignore Him.

Herod couldn’t kill Him, the Pharisees couldn’t confuse Him,

The people couldn’t hold Him and the Satan couldn’t defeat him.

He has been misrepresented by those who don’t know him.

Nero couldn’t crush Him nor Hitler could silence Him neither the New Age can’t replace Him

He is love, truth, holy, just, unchanging God.

He has all power, all knowledge; He rules all things and sustains all things.

He is the Lord of lords, Author of Life and salvation.

He is the advocate and the Judge of the living and the dead.

He rules my life because I am his child and He is my Father.

I serve Him because he knows everything about me, He knows me even before I was conceived.

I love him because He loves me with an everlasting love.

He is my provider, and He meets all my needs.

When I am broken heart, He is very close to me for he is my greatest encourager.

His burden is light, and His goal for me is abundant life.

I follow Him because He is the wisdom of the wise, the power of the powerful,

When I am sad he wipes away every tear from my eyes for he takes away all the pain I have suffered on this earth.

He will never leave me, Never forsake me, Never mislead me, Never forgets me, Never overlook me, and Ever cancel my appointment in His appointment book!

When I am in sorrow, He comforts me!

When I am in danger, He is my refuge and my fortress!

When I am hungry, He feeds me!

When I am sick, he heals me!

When people are unkind to me, He is kindfull towards me!

When people reject me, He accepts me!

When I face Death, He carries me Home!

He is everything for everybody, everywhere, every time, and in every way.

He is my God; My Father who is greater than the father of this world.

He wants me to be his child, a member of Christ’s body and to be a citizen of heaven.

So, if you’re wondering why I feel so secured, understand this…

I delight in him and he will fulfill the desires of my heart!

I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God!

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind!

I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.

I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.

I am significant because I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine, and a channel of His life.

I am God’s temple and I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit.

Everyday is a blessing for me for Jesus Christ is in my Life and I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me!”

 

Psalm 14:2 says that “Lord looks down from heaven on the entire human race; he looks to see if any one is truly wise, if anyone seeks God.

What a MARVELOUS to experience the love of our Lord Jesus Christ and to fall in love with him!Nothing in this life cansubstitute Gods Love!

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